Doing Deepthroat: Diving Deep Down

Deep Throat was an FBI special agent who was most famous for leaking information about the Watergate scandal which ultimately brought down President Nixon.

Deepthroat is a sexual term used to describe someone taking the entire length of a person's penis into their mouth and throat. Today we're going to focus on the latter.
Defintely the latter.

As I think we can all agree, penis-havers generally like receiving blowjobs. As a penis-haver myself, I can say having someone lick, suck, caress, and stroke my prime member is a heavenly experience. It's better than fireworks, ice cream, and finding five dollars on the street - combined. One of the coolest, and one of the better feeling, sensations a person can experience during a blowjob is (in my opinion) watching my partner show off her deep throat skills.

Deep throating is like a magic trick combined with oral sex. It's the art of making a penis disappear entirely into your mouth and then making it appear again. It seems like there shouldn't be room in your mouth to hide an erect penis, but some people manage it and in this post I'd like to share tips on how to help make that happen.
Hot, right?

Practice

The first piece of advice I can offer you is to take your time. Unless you were born without a gag reflex or come from a family of carnival sword swallowers, chances are deep throating a cock is not going to come naturally to you. This is a skill and one which can be difficult to master, especially since it involves getting used to something inside your body. Plus it's not as though you can practice this skill anywhere or at any time - it's not like learning card tricks at your desk while you are waiting on hold, you need to have a partner and private space to work on this skill.

In short, as you get started, remember this is going to take some time. You probably won't be an expert on your first - or even tenth - attempt. Take things slow, work on this skill a little at a time. I'm fairly certain your partner won't mind if you need to keep borrowing him for another round of practicing!

Relax and breathe

Taking anything solid into your throat, whether it's a tongue depressor, a finger, or a penis is something your body naturally doesn't want to do. This is the opening where food and air come into your body and your body isn't a fan of having your throat blocked by anything. The natural reaction is to cough or gag.

The best way to overcome this instinct is to relax. Try to relax the muscles in your neck, let your jaw go lax. Then take slow, steady breaths. The idea is to keep your body relaxed and aware that air is still getting into your lungs so that your body doesn't try to expel the penis back out of your airway.

In a way, deep throating a cock is a bit like snorkeling under water. Your body wants to fight breathing under water because it naturally doesn't want to drown. But if you slowly build up to the experience and keep calmly breathing in and out, your body will eventually relax into the experience.
These two are both upping their game in the bedroom.

Lube and Angles

When it comes to sliding something long down your throat, there are two things you can work on that will really help. One is to have some form of lubrication. Usually saliva will help you here, so spend some time treating the penis in your mouth like a lollipop before trying to take it deeper into your throat. If you have a dry mouth or just want to make the process more enjoyable, I recommend trying some flavoured lubricants. There are some tasty ones that will not only slick up his willie, but also taste like a dessert.
Sundae or penis? With the right flavoured lube it's hard to tell!

Another thing that will help is exploring a variety of angles. Each penis has its own shape and each neck has its own curve. Try out swallowing your partner's penis from a variety of angles. You could sit them in a chair and kneel in front of them. You could lay them flat on the bed and rotate around their body to see which side offers the best position. You could sit on his face while you inhale his member. You could lay on your bed with your head over the edge and have him stand next to your face. Experiment with various angles, make sure his dick is slick, and deep throating will become easier.

Patience

Earlier I mentioned that deep throating often takes a good deal of practise. All of the experimenting with different angles, positions, lubes, and breathing exercises can take time. Don't rush yourself - this is a skill where you can't rush. Don't worry, with a little time it will get easier.

I urge patience, not just for you, but also for your partner. Your favourite penis-haver may be eager to get his cock deep inside you, but he should be patient too. If he's thrusting his hips, wiggling, or trying to push your head down farther then he's not helping the process. Let him know you'll have an easier time deep diving if he holds still, says encouraging things, and appreciates your practise session. He can best help you by chilling out and letting you experiment and hone your skills.
Thanks, buddy, but I know where it is!

Positivity

The most important factor in any blowjob (in my opinion) is enthusiasm. The different between good head and great head is a positive attitude on the part of the person going down. I mention this because there will be a big difference in the deep throat experience (for both of you) depending on whether you are really into trying it.

If you're just trying to deep throat because you think he'll like it or because you feel it's a skill you should learn, it's probably not going to be a great experience for either of you. In which case you might want to skip this bedroom skill and try something else.

Hopefully you have some sort of positive motivation. Maybe you think deep throating looks hot, maybe you want to pull out this skill as a sexy surprise for your lover, maybe you find your partner's moans as your lips reach the base of his cock are the hottest thing in the world? Whatever it is, a positive mindset will do wonders for the experience, for both of you.
Yay!

Something that helps with the positive mindset is getting into a sexy mood before you start deep throating. Try to ease into the oral sex portion of the event by starting off with foreplay. Kissing, touching each other, and playing with a vibrator are all great ways to put you into a positive, deep diving mindset. Some people may also find that playing with a toy, like a vibrator, will help them relax and enjoy the experience. Plus it looks really hot when your partner is enjoying themselves while swallowing your sword.

As a bonus, if you're focusing on the positive, it won't matter if it takes a while for you to master this skill. You'll still enjoy the process of learning and experimenting. Focus on the journey, on the learning, and the connection with your partner rather than just judging your performance or striving for the end goal.

Do not use props

Finally, a word of caution: please do not use props! Sometimes I hear about people trying their hand at deep throating by using items other than a penis. Please don't do this. Items like toothbrushes, suction-cup dildos, broom handles, glass dildos, rulers, and pool noodles all have two things in common: they do not have a flared base to keep them from slipping down your windpipe, and they are not meant to go in your throat.
Do not see how deep you take take this.

A penis is actually a pretty good object to put in your mouth. Most of them are under eight inches long, won't clip a tooth, and won't just slip off your partner's body and get stuck in your airway. Dildos, broom handles, and toothbrushes are hard, not firmly attached to other stuff, and can be slippery. They're not things you should be trying to slide down your throat.

Basically, both you and your partner will be happier if you practise on him rather than inanimate objects. If you really want to practise and build up to the deep throating experience, then I recommend using a finger or two. Just take off any rings first so they don't slip off while in your mouth.

Something you can use though that may help is throat relaxing spray. This spray helps relax the back of your throat and reduces your gag reflex. It's a handy item to have if you're having trouble getting used to using a penis as a tongue depressor.

Conclusions

Ultimately, deep throating is a great way to add a sexy skill to your bedroom activities. It literally gets you closer to your partner, feels great, and can be enjoyable if you get into experimenting with tasty lubes and different positions. Remember to take things slow and have fun with the experience.